Monday, November 13, 2023

May God Remember Us - A Prayer for Transgender Day of Remembrance 2023

A new prayer for Transgender Day of Remembrance, November 20...

 

God, who answered our genderqueer ancestor Jacob when they wrestled with the Angel         

May God answer us
 
God, who answered our genderqueer ancestor Joseph when they were in the pit
            May God answer us
 
God, who answered our genderqueer ancestor Dina in the womb,
            May God answer us
 
God, who answered our genderqueer ancestor, Judge Devorah when they led Israel in war
            May God answer us
 
God, who answered our genderqueer ancestor Yael when they defeated the enemy general Sisera,
            May God answer us
 
God, who answered our genderqueer ancestor Judith when they defeated the enemy general Holofornes
            May God answer us
 
God, who answered our genderqueer ancestor the Queen of Sheba when they impressed King Solomon
            May God answer us
 
God, who answered the people of Corinth when they challenged the gender norms of wearing their hair,
            May God answer us
 
God, who answered our asexual ancestor Mary Magdalene,
            May God answer us
 
God, who answered our genderqueer ancestor Mary, who learned at the feet of Jesus
            May God answer us
 
God, who answered our genderqueer ancestor Joan of Arc at Orleans,
            May God answer us
 
God, who answered our genderqueer ancestors at Dewey’s and Compton’s riots
            May God answer us
 
God, who answered our genderqueer ancestors at Stonewall
            May God answer us
 
God, who answers us in the face of unprecedented hate and vitriol
            May God answer us



Rabbah Rona Matlow, DMin (Candidate) © 2023

Derived from the Selihah, prayer for forgiveness מי שענהMi She’anah – The One Who Answered. Original found in Rav Amram Gaon’s Siddur.

Monday, July 24, 2023

Israel "Justice Reform: Message

This is my message about the "Justice Reform" passed by Netanyahu's Kenesset, and how it relates to Tisha B'Av and the Ten Commandments, which we read this coming Shabbat.

Friday, June 30, 2023

God Loves Queer People

This video comes from my colleague The Rev. Alexa Gilmour in the Greater Toronto Area. She writes:

Too often, attacks rooted in a hateful form of Christianity are what make news. The rest of us, along with our inclusive theology, are silent or silenced. One month ago, our Canadian provincial rep (like your State reps) Krystin Wong-Tam invited a small group of queer and ally clergy to a meeting on June 1st or so at Queen's Park parliamentary building to ask us how we might be able to counter the right wing Christian narrative that Christians hate 2SLGBTQI+ people. They shared horrifying stats about the rising hate crimes and laws aimed at rolling back human rights. I don’t have to tell you about this as many of you know this is happening in your country and in mine. As you’ve heard me say, hate knows no borders, why should our love? 

She has asked that other clergy share this.  This work is directly in line with my activism and scholarship, so I am honored to share this.

Monday, January 2, 2023

A Reflection on a Legal Holiday from Many Years Ago

 

A Reflection on a Legal Holiday from Many Years Ago

In my first year of seminary, at our annual off-site retreat, an event occurred, that still sticks with many of us. In many ways, it was deeply personal to me, because I had retired from a 22-year career in the Navy just a few years prior, and this day was Veteran’s Day. For me, the gesture was very powerful and meaningful; the colleague put a flower in a vase on each table at lunch, in honor of the veterans who had served the US in years past. The poppy was a symbol of honoring veterans for many years, but they were not available, so roses were used in their place.

I was deeply touched by this gesture, as I understood the historical significance of the flower, and what it represented. Most of those present did not understand or appreciate it, because it appeared to endorse the extant wars at the time, the “Global War on Terror.”

There are a number of things that those who haven’t served in the military didn’t recognize. First off, until the end of the Viet Nam era, soldiers were conscripted, they didn’t volunteer to serve. This meant that if your number was called, you went, or you had bigger troubles!

With Desert Storm, even though no US assets had been attacked there was a huge surge of patriotism stirred up, and the war was highly supported. It had broad global support as well – after all, how could we sit by and watch one country gobble up another one?  Ironically, we are doing just that these days with the Russia/Ukraine war, since intervening against Russia bears risks and results beyond catastrophic.

After 9/11, of course the surge in patriotism was unbelievably high, and the numbers of people enlisting was unprecedented. Yet even so, the military still needed to call up Guard and Reserve forces like never before to have adequate numbers to staff the battle forces that were called for by President GW Bush.  Were these wars necessary? That’s a topic for another discussion, though.

Since Viet Nam, however, a new phenomenon occurred in the US. Instead of blaming the President, Congress, or the National Command Authority, where blame lies for going to war, American citizens blamed, and attacked, returning soldiers. This attitude continues today. It is considered the military’s fault that we are at war, and if the military would just stop being so militaristic, well, then we could have peace, after all.

The rub is that the Constitution mandates a defense force. We must have a military. The issue is how it is used. And almost every president who has been to war himself understands the significance of that, and has been hesitant to commit to war, and has limited the military actions. On the contrary, presidents who never served in combat, including Clinton, GW Bush, Obama and Trump have kept the military engaged in the Middle East continually for over 30 years.

So, when we want to cast blame, it needs to go inside the Washington Beltway for sure, but it needs to go to 1600 Pennsylvania Ave, NOT to the Pentagon.  The Pentagon does not make the decision to go to war, and it does not declare war on other countries. That is the President and Congress.

And the military troops and veterans at the bottom of the chain of command?  They were following the LEGAL orders they swore an oath to follow. To not follow those orders carries other problems. The military does have procedures such as the conscientious objector, and I have a friend who filed for that status after returning from the Afghanistan war. So PLEASE, do not blame the military personnel and veterans – give them flowers. We really are trying to make peace in the world.

It's the politicians in the White House and Congress who try to make war. Please remember that every election year.

Trans Generations and Generational Trauma related to the Biblical Book of Genesis

 

I recently submitted a scholarly paper for review about generational trauma in the Book of Genesis, in the Hebrew Bible.  Anyone who has ever read Genesis is aware that we are taught to revere the main characters in the book. Yet, if we read the book closely, that just does not make sense.

A husband who sells his wife into sex slavery.  A father who exiles his wife and son, then tries to sacrifice his other son. The “sacrificed” son who then copies what his father did. His wife and their younger son conspire to steal his blessing. That son, Jacob, steals his father-in-law’s flocks. Jacob’s sons conspire to kill, but eventually kidnap and sell into slavery their brother Joseph, while they do many other horrible things.  Their sister Dina, unaware of the risks, walks into a trap, and is taken advantage of by a smooth talker, or raped, depending on which commentaries you read.

This reads like a night-time soap opera! And this is biblical text. What is going on here?

After the Holocaust, the field of generational trauma was developed. Survivors didn’t talk about their experiences, but it was noted that their offspring showed signs of trauma, even when they had not experienced direct trauma themselves.  If that trauma was not addressed, it could be transmitted to the third generation, etc.

We have been aware of PTSD in various forms since WWI, with “shell shock” and its other names. But it wasn’t studied with any intensity until the post Viet Nam/Desert Storm era. Then we began to really understand PTSD. This is about the same time that third generation survivors – people my age, started showing trauma signs.

In my paper, I took these seemingly random and disastrous events, and put them within a framework. Each generation had experienced trauma. That trauma had not been treated and it was transmitted to the next generation. That generation in Genesis experienced more trauma and so on.

By reading Genesis with this lens, we are able to gain an important understanding of this book. We are also able to gain an important pastoral tool.  In my research paper, I show the implications of this knowledge in treating survivors of generational trauma in historically oppressed communities such as Black and Indigenous communities in the US.

But friends, the trans community fits this mold as well. I know quite a number of trans/NB folx who have trans/NB offspring. Quite frankly, I have yet to meet a trans person who does NOT have cPTSD, and for most of us, it remains present to some level or other. So, for those of us who have kiddos, we are at risk of transmitting this trauma to our kiddos as well, whether we are aware of it or not.

Complicating this, as the NTDS details all too well is the denial of adequate mental healthcare for trans/NB folx in the US. Thus, it is really difficult for many of us to get our trauma into remission. And for those who are both trans/NB AND BIPOC? The trauma load is almost unbearable.

So what do we do? First of all, we can’t give up hope.  Now that we know this is an issue, we can deal with it.  If you are the trans/NB parent of a trans/NB kiddo, then watch your kiddo for signs of trauma. If they show ANY signs at all, get them help ASAP. Whether it’s at the Center, the Crisis Center, or if you are fortunate enough to have insurance, your doctor, you MUST act. Your life and your child’s life depend on this.

I have struggled to find meaning and value in Genesis for many years. I know others have as well. I hope this offers some people meaning and hope, and I hope you will take this lesson to heart.

Monday, December 26, 2022

The “Opioid Crisis” and What it Means to Me

    

 

The “Opioid Crisis” and What it Means to Me

 

Most of you who read my blog know that I am a totally disabled veteran and that I live with chronic severe pain. Because of that, I have a very different take on the “Opioid Crisis” than most do, and I’d like to share that here.

There have been a recent spate of settlements in Federal and State lawsuits against pharmaceutical companies and large pharmacy chains for producing and dispensing opioids in various fashions.[i] Among these is the vilification of long acting opioids such as MS-Contin, OxyContin, Opana and Avinza.

Avinza was a 24-hour morphine capsule, but it is no longer available in the US.[ii] I can tell you, however, that Avinza enabled me to get my life back. Thus, I deeply resent the way the Government vilified this drug and others like it. Further, the long and delayed release drugs were formulated and constructed in such a way that it was very difficult to break them down to get the drugs out of them, so abusers really had a difficult time with them, contrary to what we may have seen on TV. It is much easier to abuse the immediate release pills, which haven’t been so much of an issue.

The push has been away from opiates to non-opiate therapy. In my case that has been an epic failure.  I have tried every alternative therapy at least twice with no success. Due to my genetic makeup, I do not respond to the drugs used to treat neurological pain (off label usage of anti-seizure drugs). Worse yet, it was just revealed that these drugs are not really effective against neurological pain anyway![iii] And when people suggest I try alternative drugs, my response is that I’ve tried cannabis and psilocybin under doctor’s orders, and they didn’t work either. I will not buy street drugs for many reasons.

The biggest impact that the government actions have had is on those like me, who suffer chronic pain. When the government first acted, it was a “knee-jerk” reaction, and most of us were cut off, essentially cold turkey, from our pain medications. I went through three months of withdrawal, and I literally had several life-threatening reactions to drugs meant to counter the effects of the withdrawal symptoms.

When we are cut off from the narcotics, and after withdrawal is complete, we have three choices.

1        1) Attempt to just live with it, which is what I did for about seven years, until things got so bad, and the pain got so unbearable, that I had to return to a pain doctor and go back on opiates. Yet, despite updated prescribing guidelines, he is still under-dosing me, so most of the time, I am still living with out of control, unmanaged pain. There are, in fact many studies that show that chronic pain literally kills. So this is a horrible option!

2        2) Use alternative therapies – if one is fortunate enough to find an alternative therapy that is successful, that’s wonderful.  As I stated above, none of them worked for me, but I’m sort of unique. Others are more fortunate.

        3) Turn to street drugs. There is, in fact, unfortunately a drug newer than fentanyl on the streets as well. Isotonitazene is a drug reported to be several times stronger than fentanyl, and also imported from China.

Those who have turned to street drugs have brought about (not by their own fault, however) the TRUE Opiate crisis.

Like me, all chronic pain patients develop substantial tolerances to opiates (and in my case Ketamine as well). This means that we need progressively larger doses for effective pain management.

Standard heroin turned out to be largely ineffective for many pain patients. So, the drug cartels contacted the Chinese producers, who mailed them Fentanyl, the extremely powerful synthetic opiate. The cartel then started cutting heroin (and everything else as it turned out) with Fentanyl.  For some users, Fentanyl wasn’t even strong enough, so they accessed CarFentanyl (designed for elephants and rhinoceri).

The issue is that these drugs are so powerful that if non-users such as first responders or others who try to render aid, inhale or touch the drugs, they can instantly go into respiratory arrest. Most do not know the protocols for treating overdoses in this case, and there is usually not enough Narcan (Nalaxone) available on scene to treat a heavy Fentanyl overdose anyway.

The government CAUSED this crisis by ill informed decisions and ignorance. And they refuse to walk it back because of egos. Further the damage has been done with the Fentanyl on the streets.  It’s just too lucrative, so I do not see the cartels willingly making a change, unless they are hugely incentivized by the DEA to do so (and I really do not see that happening either).

But as with all things, change can only come about by an overwhelming push from the electorate, so PLEASE contact your senators, congresspeople, governors, etc., and get the laws changed. Change the course of this opiate crisis so we stop killing people.

And stop prosecuting and persecuting those who provide opiates.  The result is that providers close and patients lose ability to get treatment. There is never a positive outcome from these actions.

I am quite certain that, like many things I say, people will disagree and argue with me vehemently, and that’s fine.  But I’m living with this issue. Unless you are living with it yourself, or have CONSTRUCTIVE ways of addressing the issue, please keep your comments to yourself or post them elsewhere. If you would like me to directly reply to a concern of yours about this, please use my contact form at http://www.rabbahrona.us/p/contact-me_27.html.

 

Thank you, Rona

 

Thursday, June 23, 2022

New and Updated

 

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Sunday, May 29, 2022

My Take on Gun Violence - Updated 2022 Edition

 


I first published this piece after Sandy Hook, in December of 2015. Since then little has changed, except that our government has become more polarized and more people are dead. As I write this, we are in the Memorial Day weekend, rather than the winter holidays, and that feels worse.  But I need to make some updates to this piece with knowledge I have gained since my original post.

Many cultures observe a festival of lights in the darkest days of winter.  For us it is Hanukkah, for others Christmas; as well there are Pagan festivals of light in the winter.  For Jews and Christians, the winter festival also represents salvation.

This winter, however, no amount of candles, LED lights or bonfires, will lighten the darkness in our hearts.  In mid-December, there have been at least three mass shootings in public areas. The most heartbreaking of course is the loss of all those precious children at the school in Newtown CT.
In the Talmud, Sanhedrin 37a, we find:

          “Man was created alone, to teach you that whoever takes a single life... Scripture ascribes to him the guilt of having destroyed the whole world; and whoever saves a single life..., Scripture ascribes to him the merit of having saved the whole world.”
The world of those parents in CT, as well as in other places of mass murder, HAS in fact been destroyed.  No parent should ever have to bury a child; that it was from senseless murder makes it that much worse. 

There is no answer in Torah for such acts of violence. The Torah tells us we were created “B’tzelem El-him”, in G*d’s image.  The Torah also commands that we shall not murder.  These acts of murder, in essence serve as an attempt to destroy G*d from the world.

On December 19, 2012, President Obama gave a charge to his cabinet to find answers and real fixes for several problems in our country.  I would like to elaborate on what I see are the issues, and how we can address them:
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  • The glorification of gun violence in movies, TV and video games:  Just as it is not legal, according to interpretation of the First Amendment, to shout “Fire” in a crowded theater, other incendiary speech should be limited too. This includes, as I see it, limiting the glorification of gun violence in the media.

  • This country has become, in the last few decades, morally bankrupt.  We no longer teach ethics, values and personal responsibility in schools.  I firmly believe that these topics CAN and should be taught, without resorting to the Bible or other religious teachings.

  •  With the current trends in healthcare, mental health care has become very difficult to afford or access.  We need much more available mental health care in this country. 

  • The Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) has, based on my experiences as a teacher, forced, far too many students into inappropriate main stream settings.   The schools are not equipped or staffed for this, and most teachers do not have the requisite special training needed.  By mainstreaming such children, they are then shunned by their classmates, leading them to be socially isolated, and often hated for the disruptions they cause due to their difficulties. If these students were taught in special needs programs with similar students, they would be able to function at a higher level, and would be more socialized.  This would result in such developmentally or educationally disabled people feeling more at home in society.  Some Chabad schools have been very successful with this.

Since I wrote the original piece, people smarter than me have educated me on the special education system. A better approach would be to have small classrooms, with no more than 15 students per class, and two qualified EDUCATORS per classroom. Each student would be treated as if they are neurodivergent, and their own individual learning needs and goals would be addressed. By doing this, no student would be singled out, or left behind. This would greatly reduce the chances of what happens today, with students becoming demonized and isolated because of learning differences.


    So, what can we do about this horrible trend?   I have seen many calls for more gun control laws.  In my opinion, adding broad based gun control is really tilting at windmills. In the case of the Newtown shooting, the rifle was apparently legally obtained.  One thing to observe is that these weapons are sold as semi-automatic, which means one shot per trigger pull.  Amazingly, while gun shops cannot legally sell full-automatic (one trigger pull, many bullets) versions of these rifles, they can sell the conversion kit to switch to full auto separately.  This is certainly one area where gun control might have effect.

    However, rather than putting a spot Band-Aid on an arterial bleed, we need to stay focused on the root causes – guns are the tool but not the source of the violence. None of the ideas I have suggested are easy. Making mental health care accessible would be expensive, as is special needs instruction in schools.  We need to provide motivation for good people to go into these fields with scholarships for advanced degrees in mental health care and special needs education, with the recipients committing to at least four years of public service to pay for their scholarships.

    People attached to gun control will be very quick to point to the UK and Japan as examples of locales where gun control works. However, those are island nations, with much lower populations. It is much easier to limit the inflow of guns and to control what happens.

    In the United States we have over 10,000 miles of borders which are difficult to manage. In addition, less than 10% of container cargo that enters the country is even inspected, and this is post 9/11! Further, it is possible to download plans for guns off the Internet and 3D print them, and ammunition is made at people's homes every day. Thus, even if you somehow eliminated EVERY gun in the US today, it would NOT eliminate guns tomorrow.

    Therefore we MUST turn to methods other than gun control to stop this scourge. Gun control can be part of it, but anyone who wants to hold on to gun control and ignore everything else is putting people's lives in continued jeopardy!

    It seems to me that we have been placing a value on human life by refusing to confront these issues, which are mainly economic.  It is a very cynical calculus when people monetize the value of human life.  Please consider talking or writing to your State and Federal legislators to fully fund the fixes to these issues, so that we can restore some sense of freedom and safety in our lands, and restore value to human life, instead of having greed be the capital we operate on.

    Rabbah Rona Matlow is a Veteran Pastoral Counselor in Las Vegas.  Ze has taught in Jewish Day Schools, in classrooms with students with special needs in the mainstream, and has seen first-hand how difficult mainstreaming can be. 

    Friday, December 17, 2021

    Exciting New Torah Workshops

     I am thrilled to announce two new workshops coming up in the beginning of the year.



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    New learning opportunities!
    Announcing two exciting new Torah workshops:
    Frequently Mistranslated or Misinterpreted Biblical Verses (T)
    R-Rated Torah—The Stuff They Never Talk About in Shul (R)

    Dates of workshops:

    Temple Beth Sholom LV https://www.bethsholomlv.org/

    R—NEW DATE February 26! Rabbi’s Tisch. Contact Temple office.

    Congregation Ner Tamid https://www.lvnertamid.org/


    T—January 27, 2022 5:30 pm, Zoom
    R—February 24, 2022 5:30 pm, Zoom

    For more information contact Ner Tamid Las Vegas

    Rabbah Rona Matlow
    www.RabbahRona.us
    @RabbahRona
    And includes a photo of Rabbah Rona.


    Tuesday, August 10, 2021


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    What's New in Rona Land?

    I'm really not sure when, but I have an academic journal article coming out in the Journal of Lesbian Studies, starting with Genesis chapter 1, covering Bible, science, and sociology, to show that sex and gender have always been NON-BINARY. I then explore the question of what to do with the language of sexuality, if everyone is non-binary.

     

    I am now officially a Doctor of Ministry (DMin) student at the Pacific School of Religion (www.psr.edu) in Berkeley Ca.  My dissertation will explore non-binary identity in the Tanakh (Hebrew Bible) through the use of Jewish commentaries and academic scholarship.  I hope to have this finished in 3 - 4 years.  My mother OBM called me a perpetual student, so I do have to live up to that!

    Of course I continue to deal with my disabilities, and that's never a fun thing, but maybe I'll have good news soon! 

     

    Monday, March 8, 2021

    Queer Liberation Seder

     

    Please note that registration for the Seder will close Friday March 26 at Noon PDT. It will also be streamed on Facebook, and will be back posted onto my website after the Holiday.

     

    Please click here for the video from the seder.

    Please join us for the Queer Liberation Seder, SUNDAY March 28, at 6 PM PST.

    Until all are FREE, none of us are truly free.  During this Seder, we will use the Queer Liberation Hagaddah. To respect those in recovery we will use only juice for the Four Cups. During our Seder meal, only fish and vegetarian food will be served.

    Of course all Zoom participants are free to choose the type of juice or wine they use and the type of food they eat during the Seder.

    We also recognize that there are many who are food and housing insecure, so we encourage contributions to appropriate organizations prior to the Seder to allow others to afford their own Seder meals and safety this Passover.

    To get the Zoom link for the Seder please click here.

    Monday, February 1, 2021

     Join us for a special Kabbalat Shabbat Service

    Friday February 12, 6:30 pm PST 


    Click HERE for tonight's Siddur

     

    Please note: This is also Repro Shabbat, sponsored by the National Council of Jewish Women. Please Click Here for more information on this special Shabbat. My sermon will be focused on this event.

    As a special nod to Black History Month, we will have a special addition of "Stand up MiKhamokha" which has tones of the Black Spiritual in. As we discussed last month, there are many thematic ties between the redemption of the Jews at the Sea, and the PARTIAL redemption of Black people in the US.

     


     Please note: This service will be recorded, so if you are camera shy, please have your camera turned off... Thanks.

    Friday, January 15, 2021

    There is Hope

    Join us for a special LGBTQ Kabbalat Shabbat Service

    There is Hope

    January 15, 2021    6:30 pm PST

    For Zoom access, please RSVP until 3 pm PST at this forms link.

    The service will also be live streamed on Facebook here.

    Please click here for the siddur for the service. 

    Monday, December 7, 2020

    Light Up the Nights - Erev Shabbat Hanukkah Service

    Come light up the darkest time of the year with us!

     Click HERE for tonight's online Siddur.

    The amazing Mya Byrne (@MyaByrne) and I will be leading an Alternative Zoom Erev Shabbat Hanukkah Service with sing along following. Friday December 11, 2020 at 6:30 pm PST.


    Please RSVP to the link below.

    https://forms.gle/mvexgsAbraGjchVV7

    An online siddur will be available the night of the service. 

    For Zoom this will be limited to 100 registrants due to license limits, but we will stream to Facebook simultaneously.

    We hope to see you there!

    חג אורים שמח

    Happy Hanukkah